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Wednesday, February 01, 2017

My Friend

I bet we all have feelings and memories from high school that stick with us. For me these feelings have been dragged to the front lately and demanded examination. Like many young girls I had a best friend in elementary and high school. Beginning in fourth grade it seemed Josie and I were always together. We had sleep overs, we were comfortable in one another’s churches, we shared family reunions and we always vacationed together – to the beach, camping, and we even shared a trip to Hawaii when we were seventeen.


But when we hit high school there was a change – Josie became wildly popular. Her circle of friends included jocks, cheerleaders, majorettes, all the cool people. I was definitely shunt to the side. She and I remained friends, but within the ‘group’ she hung with, I was defiantly a ‘hanger on’. No one was really mean to me, but if I’d have vanished no one would have ever noticed.

After high school Josie married and had a baby right away while I went off to college and I’m guessing many of you know the feeling of true friends simply drifting apart. We lived in the same town but rarely if ever saw one another. Fast forward forty years and Josie and I were thrilled to get together and talk at our fortieth reunion. At the time, we were both anticipating retirement and we planned on seeing each other more.

Josie retired in June and I couldn’t wait for my retirement in December so we could have some long lunched getting reacquainted. Didn’t happen. Josie died January 9 from complications following routine surgery. She didn’t even see her sixtieth birthday. I was stunned. It just wasn’t her time, we were going to go to lunch and laugh and talk and …

We’ve all been told, especially as we’ve gotten older, not to put things off. But it bears repeating – don’t.

It all made me remember a poem I first read in one of Laura Ingles Wilder books,

Lost
Between sunrise and sunset
One golden hour set with sixty diamond minutes.
No reward offered, it is lost forever.

I wanted to share this with you but the story doesn’t stop there. Tomorrow I want to tell you about reconnecting with the others in the ‘group’ Josie had. One part of me just wanted to avoid them all as those old high school feeling rushed back. But we did reconnect, and we did some laughing for sure, and I was really happy I went.

24 comments:

  1. Oh PK, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend and for your loss. This is a real reminder to reconnect with old friends. Happy you reconnected with others in the group and that you were glad you went.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. I'm happy about the others too. But so sorry I waited too long to spend time with Josie.

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  2. Hi Pk, I am so sorry for your loss, life is so sad sometimes. I hope your friend had a happy life, times like this remind us to make the most of every day.
    love Jan, xx

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    1. She did have a happy life and she was well loved by so many.

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  3. I also am so sorry for the loss of your friend. We all know that life is fleeting, but we somehow don't pay enough attention to the real meaning...I need to go call a friend, thanks for the reminder. hugs abby

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    1. I hope you did call your friend. It's so easy to put things off.

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  4. PK, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend Josie. We just don't know what's around the corner for us so yes, definitely worth repeating - don't put things off.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. We all know it, but it's so easy to do.

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  5. So sorry about your friend. Glad you were able to reconnect with the others because when we reach a certain age it's nice to have friends that have known you since....

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    1. I remember my grandmother, who lived to 96, saying that there was no longer anyone to call her by her first name. It was either, mother, grand mother, great mother, aunt or Mrs. But there was no one left to call her by her given name.

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  6. Hi PK, Oh how sad about your friend Josie. :( I am so sorry! It's so true... we just never know. Reminds us to do lots of living and loving right now!

    I LOVE the poem from one of the Laura Ingalls Wilder books. Was it from These Happy Golden Years? That was my fav of her books! Beautiful! Thanks for sharing that.

    I am glad that you had some fun getting reacquainted with your old schoolmates. I will look forward to hearing more about it all. In the meantime, giant hugs and love sent your way!

    <3 Katie

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    1. Thanks for the hugs Katie. Yes I think that was the book it was from. I love all her books, but that little poem always stuck in my mind.

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  7. Sorry about the loss of your good friend.But great you went back to see the so-called "cool'' kids. As the years go by, there are really no more cool kids. You're all a member of the class and shame you can't share with them the fact you are a published author. Always a chance, of course, that one of the cool kids turned out to be a spanko.

    FD

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    1. Oh FD, come back tomorrow - I think you will be happy!

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  8. PK,
    To loose a friend so young at such a crossroads time is indeed sad. I am sorry for your loss.
    Meredith

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    1. Thanks Meredith it has been hard.

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  9. That just sucks. It does. I'm so sorry.

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    1. It does and it still hurts.

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  10. Oh, I am so sorry! But how wonderful you got to reconnect, even for a brief moment. Funny too how all those people from high school grew up to be some pretty nice people. Not all...but most...

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    1. I'm so glad I went to the reunion for our 40th! Yes, they are mostly nice, or at least polite.

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  11. i am sorry to read of your friends passing. I hope the time spent with the 'group' helped you to reconnect with Josie in some way. I'm sure she was probably sitting at the table with all of you smiling away as you reminisced around her.....it's a nice thought.

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    1. She sure would have like to set around and talk to us. She was the heart of the group.

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  12. What a great decision you made to visit those friends! I'm sure you made an impact on them! Life teaches us to love always!
    I'm so very sorry about your friend!

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  13. sorry for the loss of your friend. glad you were able to reconnect with other friends in the group and that it was a positive experience for you. big hugs to you

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