Ella's Meme

Last week was great. We had our reunion and then on to the lake with family. I'm back and tired. But I didn't want to miss this meme. Thanks, Ella!

1.Name a tender song that can almost make you cry. 

Almost any song if I’m in the mood to cry.

2.  What is your favorite shade of lipstick?  What about nail polish?  If you do not wear lipstick or polish, what do you like or dislike about the shades you see others wear?

I’m pretty much a ‘live and let live’ on this. Most people look fine wearing both. As long as they don’t insist I wear either, we’re good.

Definitely not me!

3.  Name a children's nursery rhyme or song that you loved and to which you remember all the words.

Of course everyone knows ‘You are my Sunshine’ but I still love it and remember Mama and I singing it to one another. I see it’s currently being used in a horror movie and I resent that.

4.  What outfit would you put on in the morning if you wanted to feel happy and well dressed?  Something in which you think you look pretty damn good!

I don’t really have a go to outfit. In the summer, it’s shorts and tee shirt. I’m comfortable and happy. If we’re going out I usually put on something a little nicer.

5.  If you had enough money to buy just one, would it be a cottage by the ocean or a cabin in the mountains?

Definitely the mountains. We’re close to the mountains and we’d use it often. The beach is quite a drive and Nick not wild about the beach for long stretches.

6.  If you are old enough, which one of the Beatles did you have a "thing" for?  If you are not that old, tell us a musician that really did it for you.

No question about this one. George! He is very memorial to me because I had my first sex dream ever about him. I would have thought Paul or John, but it was George who showed up in the dream and I still remember.

7.  Name a smell that you love - could be kitchen, outdoors, person, your choice.

I love smelling the honeysuckle and hyacinth – both smell like spring time.

8.  How often do you defuzz your legs.  Wax, razor, or electric?

I use a razor, but I don’t need to often.

9.  How/why did you choose your blog name? 

That was pretty easy. Nick and I had been more like roommates for a couple of decades, we loved and respected one another, but there was little passion. When I came out to him, twenty-three years into our marriage, everything changed. It was definitely a New Beginning for us. 

10.  What do you like to eat for breakfast?  To drink?  Coffee or tea?

I usually have a sausage biscuit, sometime I throw an egg in. I’ve never liked tea, but I fix a cup of coffee when I head out to start writing for the day.

11.  How many siblings do you have?  Or are you an only child?  Are you the oldest, a middle, or the youngest child?

I have one older sister.

12.  What is your favorite salad dressing?

I like Ranch for dipping – wings, pizza, whatever. But if I’m eating salad, and that’s rarely, I like Thousand Island.

13.  If you could sit next to anyone (alive) on a long plane trip, who would you pick?

I like the simple things in life. I’d probably pick LJ. I get to see Mollie all the time and I only get to see LJ once or twice a year. I do love talking to LJ. I think stars, celebrities in general would intimidate me so I’ll stick with my son.

14.  Have you ever gone shopping just to cheer yourself up?

Not really, shopping’s fine and I often enjoy it. But it’s not my go to for cheering up.

NO 

15.  If there is one thing that can make you lose your temper, what would it be?

I rarely lose my temper. My flashes of temper come when Nick snaps at me for no reason – maybe I’ve misheard him or something and he bites my head off. It’s rare but it flies all over me! And even then, no one knows how angry I am but me.

16.  Tell us about the best photograph you have ever had taken.

It’s one of my mom and Dad kissing about two weeks before she passed away.

17.  Have you ever gone skinny-dipping and where?

 Skinny dipping or chunky dunking, what ever, but yes I have and I LOVE it. Mostly in our pool, but once in a lake. It is a wonderful feeling.

You know last year I went to the beach 

with Sunny, Katie, Terps, Ella and Meredith

this may have been some of us. Then 

again, maybe not.

18.  What do you like on your pizza?  What don't you like on your pizza?

Hamburger and bacon are my favorite and I like most meats. I don’t like Canadian bacon, peppers, or pineapple.

Spanking lives

I haven’t posted in the past few days – and there has been stuff to post. I’m just processing.

Nick was going to be gone golfing most of the day last Friday.

As he kissed me good-by he said, “Why don’t you write me a letter today?”

“A letter, what kind of letter?” I asked.

“Just a letter. I want to know what’s going on in your head,” he explained.

I agreed and while he was gone I wrote him. You know it’s a dangerous thing to give a writer an opportunity like that. I felt I showed great restraint to keep it to two pages. I’m fine and told him there were no problems. I went on to talk a little more about TTWD and even confessed to not following one rule he had asked me to. As Cassie once said, “Confession may be good for the soul, but it’s not something he hears from me often.”

It did lead to a little spanking, but most interestingly it lead to an unusual conversation.  We were laying in the bed after a spanking and Nick wanted me to channel him. What were the kind of think he needs to be saying, what were the reasons (in my head) for a spanking? I had to think for a little while, but then I just let it flow.

I ticked off some things I do that I know annoy him. Leaving the fan on in my writing room when I’m done for the day, not getting the mail even though I’m here all day, not getting my laundry put away in a timely manner. He threw in a couple of his own to make sure he understood. I told him all of these are great reasons for those short, grab the wooden spoon or something, type spankings. Little reminders you might say.

But I went on to the blowing off efforts to become healthier – my weight is causes BP problems, diabetes problems, joint problems… and the list goes on. If he doesn’t see progress he may need to think of being more serious about a spanking. And letting me know ahead of time that a ‘we need to get a handle on this’ type spanking, was a great way to get my attention. I went on his ‘his voice’ to give some reasons why I needed to make the effort to get healthy. When I was finished, he gave me a kiss and told me, “I couldn’t have said it better myself.”

TTWD will always ebb and flow with us, but Nick made it clear that he does not want to stop and that we will need to hear from me more. I’m bad at telling on myself – really bad, to the point of being extremely creative with some of my statements and answers.  Cassie doesn’t live in my head for nothing you know.

Mollie spent the night here last night. As we were sitting down to dinner Nick asked, “Didn’t you say you’d turn on the A/C today (it was delightfully cool this morning and we’d opened the windows). I told him yes and he looked pointedly at the one window I’d forgotten to close. I got a small grin and a raised eye brow. 

I guess we’ll see what happens.