I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
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Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Great holiday and now...

I had a great Christmas, it came a little late, but it was wonderful. I always love having my kids home. But when everyone is here it’s always more chaotic – and that’s even before grandchildren. But I did get a special treat during this trip. The boys spent the first night at Colin’s parents’ home. I picked LJ up the next day about noon so that he could go to an early dinner with his grandparents. I suddenly found LJ and I at home – just the two of us for about four hours. It was wonderful.

Yeah, I know he's grown but...

We took our coffee and settled into my writing room with the gas logs and the Christmas tree and just talked. We talked for the full four hours and we hit a huge amount of topics: living in NYC, retirement, Hillary, that other person… we talked about Mollie and teaching, I got to understand more about his job, we talked of trips Nick and I want to take and trips that he and Colin want to take. We talked of issues important to the LGBTQ community and the issues concerning aging  baby boomers. I love my son so much and this was a really special afternoon.

The boys are back in New York, Mollie is back at work teaching, Nick’s back at work after the holidays and I’m left to find a new normal. I have to decide how to spend my day, how to divide my time. What a great problem to have! Once things seem normal again, and once Nick gets over his cold, I’d like to talk to him about TTWD again. It’s not that it’s unheard of around here but I’d still like to do some talking – just as soon as I know what I want to say. All is well, but I’d like it to be even better. I’ll let you know.

22 comments:

  1. Hi PK, I'm glad to hear you had a wonderful family Christmas celebration and the one-on-one time with LJ made me smile, that is precious.

    I hope Nick is feeling better soon and that you do manage to have that conversation with him. Enjoy discovering your new normal post retirement :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Hey Roz, I did enjoy that time with my boy. That conversation...what to say?

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  2. My friend, I was so happy to hear about your time with your boy. I am lucky that both my boys live close. Every once in a while, we do a mom/son lunch - just one boy/man at a time. I love that one on one every so often. Their perceptions of the world and the happiness in their lives. Struggles, too.

    I like that you are thinking of a bigger talk with Nick. We never stop growing and changing. This is just the time to ponder a new chapter.

    Love,
    Ella

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    1. I get to visit with Mollie one on one often, but it was special to get the alone time with LJ.

      I need some time to think of what I want to say. I don't want to get myself in over my head.

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  3. PK,
    Conversations with grown children are wonderful. Retirement is a privileged problem, but still a problem. You must figure it out and face a new direction. It can be challenging. Nick will notice the change and the talking will happen.
    Meredith

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    1. He's usually very responsive when I want to 'talk' about important things. I just don't know what I want to say.

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  4. So good to hear you had a wonderful Christmas with your boys and extra special to have some mom/son time with LJ.

    I hope when Nick feels better you will have that conversation.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. I'm sure we'll get around to it eventually.

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  5. Ph Pk, I am so glad you had such a lovely time. I too love it when I get my boys to myself for a while.
    love Jan, xx

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    1. I remember mom and dad used to want time to talk to my sister alone after she married. I tried to always make time for them after I married.

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  6. You'll fill up the hours in no time. Wait until after Valentine's Day before you start working on your schedule - until then you have other things to think about. lol

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    1. That sounds like a good time to settle on a schedule. I'll be busy until then.

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  7. Deena3:13 PM

    Sounds like a perfect time! I am learning from you all that talking never stops.

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    1. You got it. When talking stops it seems DD falls apart.

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  8. So very happy you had such a lovely celebration and visit. Very envious of your new normal dilemma. :) Sending lots of positive energy for your chat with Nick.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. I think I'll like my new norm too, as soon as I figure out what that is.

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  9. I treasure that alone time with my kids. It's nice to talk alone in meaningful way!
    If a schedule makes you happy.... go for it....if not.... forget it!
    TTWD talking? Go for it!

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    1. Love talking to my kids - any time. We'll see what happens with the schedule.

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  10. PK so happy you had a wonderful time with family over Christmas and some alone time with LJ. That's a bonus.
    Good luck with your talk with Nick once he's better. Write down all the points you want to make so you don't forget anything.
    Hugs Lindy xx

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    1. I usually do my 'talking' by email. It let's me gather my thought so much better.

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  11. Sounds like a perfect time with your son. Glad you enjoyed your holidays! :-) Hugs

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  12. Wow, such a lovely, special time to spend with your son. I'm sure he will treasure it as well. Sounds like you had a wonderful Christmas. Hope your conversation with Nick helps and he hears you.
    --Baker

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