I have been a wife and mother for over twenty years. Now I am becoming my husband's lover, too.
We owe it all to my fellow bloggers who gave me the courage to come out to my husband as a spanko.
I do feel like this is a New Beginning for us.

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Sunday, September 18, 2016

A question for you




I’m curious about something and since I feel blogland hold the answers to most of my questions I’m here to ask.

When you orgasm, do you have one specific thought or fantasy that you use over and over to pushes you over the edge?

I know some women orgasm easily, but for others it’s much harder to achieve. Sadly, I fall in the second category. When I’m close I do have that one scenario that often gets me there.

You are most welcomed to share specifics, but mostly I just want to know if I’m the only one who does this.


22 comments:

  1. Hi PK, I do sometimes indulge in a thought or fantasy to push me over the edge. Usually not the same fantasy each time, but the theme is the same :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Thanks Roz, this was something I'm curious about.

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  2. Nope. You're not the only one. ;)

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    1. Good, I hate being alone.

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  3. Nope, not always but sometimes. It's all versions of the same one.

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  4. Absolutely! And it's quite visual for me!

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    1. Hmm... its more auditory for me.

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  5. It depends. If it's a self-service orgasm, I have my go-to fantasy with minor variations. If it's an orgasm with my husband, a wider variety works, I think because I am less in my head when I am with him. EL

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    1. That would make sense, I wish I could be less in my head.

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    2. I hear a little weed is excellent for that.

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  6. You are definitely not alone, PK. I read somewhere than a man's orgasm is more physical while a woman's is more mental...not sure I totally agree with that but can see some validity in it. Towards the end of my relationship with my ex and then the guy I dated prior to Matthew, I sometimes had to fantasize a bit to push over. And of course, since it is self-service around here, definitely have several fantasies I use...rotate them depending on my mood. :D

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. It's definitely true that it's more mental for women. Mine hardly ever changes.

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  7. Seems like I am in the minority here...I do not....when I am away and on my own..not that is a different...sexy...story.
    hugs abby

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    1. Again, interesting! I usually need the thought to push me over alone or not.

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  8. PK I'm joining your side. I need my fantasy to push me over every time. If I'm distracted by anything around me, like neighbours being noisy I can't get in the zone.
    Hugs Lindy

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    1. I'm like you nearly any distraction pulls me away. My fantasy really helps.

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  9. Absolutely! I have to have that fantasy playing in my mind or nothing happens.

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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    1. So glad I'm not alone.

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  10. PK,
    I often have the same memory......... dominant Jack and submissive me, again and again. What can I say!
    Meredith

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    1. I sure do understand!

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  11. I live in my imagination...you are not alone... :-) Hugs

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