This isn’t fun or sexy or spanky or anything like that. But I’d still appreciate you mothers out there reading and helping if you can.
I’m used to girl drama, I teach the sixth grade. I’m just not used to having Mollie troubled by it. She general stayed away all during her growing up years. I thought I’d missed it – no such luck.
A little background. Her current roommate (Jamie) is one of her college roommates. There was a third roommate who had a brother. Both Mollie and Jamie liked the brother. So Jamie slept with him. Very tacky I thought, but none of my business. Molly was annoyed, but not devastated. Jamie and brother now date, but he is in the military on the other side of the country.
The roommate sister and Jamie seem to be excluding Mollie lately. It’s really hurt Mollie’s feelings, which tears me up – yet I still stay out of it other than to listen, agree that they aren’t being fair and restrain myself from expressing my opinion of the little bitches!
Brother bought Jamie a ticket to come to visit him in CA over Labor Day. Jamie’s parents blew a gasket – called her a slut, forbid her to go and have called each night for a week now to harass her, demanding she do as they say – she’s twenty-two. For a while her mother insisted on going with her. Mollie is having anxiety just from listening to Jamie’s side of the conversations with her parents and then the long distance boyfriend.
As I’ve written all this (Tuesday night) Jamie decided not to go – her parents won, as Mollie put it and now they know if they really act like assholes they will always be able to win. Boyfriend loses a ton on money on the ticket. Mollie says she feels she definitely won the parent pool and appreciates us being sane.
Now a question for you all – and you may have to ask your twenty-something kids – Where does one go after college to meet people? I’m not even talking about guys and dating, I’m talking about female friends to eat out with, go to the movies, shopping…
Mollie doesn’t mind going to some bars, but she doesn’t really want to go totally alone. There are no teachers at her school under thirty-five and all are married with kids – she really likes them, but it’s not what she really needs. The mom in me wants to suggest joining a church – but honestly, not many single twenties go to church these days. So where are the young adults?.
Texting last night she said without Jamie and Sister roommate she really has no one to hang out with. My reply was, “I have a whole bunch of motherly advice to give you but I certainly won’t bother you with it now. I’ll send you an email soon that you can read or ignore as you like.”
Her reply was, “Ugh, okay.” Poor kid.
So help me out here – where is a young twenty-something teacher in a small town to meet other twenty somethings? (and is it the sign of a bad mother that I want to kicked the shit out of these two girls?)