I need to talk about sex. Now some of you might say ‘go ahead’ but I can’t. Not like I used to. When I first found blogs it was at the perfect time in my life. My children were coming into a time in their lives when they didn’t need my constant attention. Hmmm… maybe it was mom’s time.
I’ve said before that sex didn’t interest me much for the first 23 years of my marriage. I wanted to want it but I just didn’t. Nick was always patient, he never pushed but I’m guessing he was lonely much of the time as I walled myself off. I think it was the sense freedom I was feeling as my kids no longer needed me every minute that first lead to me typing that thrillingly forbidden word ‘spanking’.
I found blogs and more importantly I found friends. There were 4 or 5 women that I became very close to during the summer of 2006. They became, and still are, the best friends I’ve ever had. Now Grace is the only one that has a public blog but I’m in touch with them all frequently. Now our interest in spanking really bonded us but they did more for me than make me feel normal about being a spanko.
With them I was able to talk about sex. I think we talked, back then, like teenagers in a locker room. For me it was the first time I ever got to talk about the joys of sex. I was enjoying sex (oh boy was I enjoying it!!) for the first time in my life and like a teen first discovering sex I needed to talk to other to see if I was normal, to hear what they were trying and enjoying and maybe to brag a little. I needed to talk to my girlfriends about sex!! And let me tell you it worked wonders for me! We teased one another, egged each other on and were happy for one another when we reported back about a great spanking and glorious sex! We discussed everything, female ejaculation, types of orgasm, multiple orgasms, types of vibrators, who enjoyed bondage who was anal erotic, who enjoyed giving blow jobs … nothing was off limits. But at that time we were strangers really, I never thought I’d really meet any of them.
Now I have met these wonderful women. It’s one of the joys of my life but getting to know each other so well has had one down side. We don’t talk about sex like we used to. I think that over time the loss of anonymity played a part in lessening these conversations, both directly to each other or even on the blogs. I guess it’s the same reason you don’t discuss intimate details of your sex life with your neighbor or your co-workers. But I have to tell you I do miss it. It was a real spark to our sex life to be able to talk so openly with such good friends. And I really miss it.
Now there are certainly folks discussing their sex life out here and that helps. I know that there are tons of younger people writing out here now. I run across them from time to time and they write very freely about their sexsploits . But while they are very interesting to read, I like to hear from woman closer to my age 40’s and 50’s, with empty nests or getting close to it. I like to hear from those folks that may not have the energy for sex several times a day but they know the joy of taking your time and making your times together count. Ronnie did a wonderful job with her post the other day and that’s what really got me thinking about it. I think that if I did write more about our sex life it would help kick it up a notch. But it’s harder to do these days for whatever the reasons. So what do you say – shall we work on sharing out sexual adventures? I’m going to try, maybe, I might, well we’ll see…