tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post4427553166428761037..comments2024-03-26T18:59:25.722-04:00Comments on New Beginnings: The invisible elephantPKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-72714738491169885472015-04-23T09:41:08.706-04:002015-04-23T09:41:08.706-04:00I understand. I really honest and truly do.
Please...I understand. I really honest and truly do.<br />Please don't give up...let's all keep hoping together. <br />There has to be hope that our thoughts and feelings will be heard and that connection and spark will return and return and return again with the ups and downs of life...no turning back...I have to believe that. :-) Big hugs to you. If you need to talk you know where to find me. Terpsichorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704408254742966076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-73433113955934514422015-04-22T01:56:28.672-04:002015-04-22T01:56:28.672-04:00NO!!NO!!an English Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00696976759167193635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-78226346798491525052015-04-21T22:54:51.841-04:002015-04-21T22:54:51.841-04:00Anon, I appreciate you taking the time to comment....Anon, I appreciate you taking the time to comment. I'm sure it's confusing for our men - if only they would listen and BELIEVE us! When I put it to Nick in a purely erotic way he's all over it. But when I mention anything real, anything concerning discipline he just doesn't seem to get it at all. <br /><br />No we aren't strange - there are way too many of us who feel the same way. But I know it's still a difficult concept for some.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-4634531669742650742015-04-21T17:06:28.432-04:002015-04-21T17:06:28.432-04:00I'm a lurker and a wife who has been trying de...I'm a lurker and a wife who has been trying desperately to make her husband understand what she needs. I tried two years ago and was turned down flat in a not-so-nice way. I am trying again, taking a different tact. We've been married a long time so this is odd for him. I appreciate knowing that other men aren't completely comfortable/understanding and I especially appreciate knowing that I am, in fact, not strange. So please know that YOU are not strange (as you described yourself above). I think you are brave and deserve the lifestyle that works for you. Hoping you find your way to work through this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-84066954660791491442015-04-20T23:43:30.118-04:002015-04-20T23:43:30.118-04:00I'm not about to stop blogging - all you peopl...I'm not about to stop blogging - all you people out here keep me sane. Thought Nick might challenge that statement!PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-17328208596810572332015-04-20T23:42:12.685-04:002015-04-20T23:42:12.685-04:00It would certainly be worth a try if I had any hop...It would certainly be worth a try if I had any hope it would really work.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-84052992782265740942015-04-20T23:41:08.817-04:002015-04-20T23:41:08.817-04:00FD, I really appreciate your support. I do want mo...FD, I really appreciate your support. I do want more than a roommate and I hope I won't settle.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-49388569607120554272015-04-20T23:40:04.809-04:002015-04-20T23:40:04.809-04:00Waiting a while sounds great. It's a crazy tim...Waiting a while sounds great. It's a crazy time of year anyway. Hopefully summer will be better.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-66750378225758486552015-04-20T19:48:08.176-04:002015-04-20T19:48:08.176-04:00So wish I had some wise and wonderful words for yo...So wish I had some wise and wonderful words for you PK but I don't so I'll just send lots of prayers and positive energy that things work out the way you want. Meanwhile, at least please visit and let us know how you, Nick and your kiddos are doing. <br /><br />Hugs and blessings...<br />CatCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14266606975978680188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-52441225129924979652015-04-20T19:40:20.878-04:002015-04-20T19:40:20.878-04:00Giant hugs to you, PK! :) Oh gosh- when you are r...Giant hugs to you, PK! :) Oh gosh- when you are ready, and the "fine" becomes something else, "Tell him what you need!" I know that you have done it before, but like everything, the time will be right for you to go for it again. I am betting that Nick will help you out. But you have to tell him. :) Even if it is each time. It is worth a try, right? Lots of love sent your way,<br /><br /><3 KatieKatiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09502903951761571578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-14245876551439754582015-04-20T19:23:12.740-04:002015-04-20T19:23:12.740-04:00I wish I had some pithy advice to give you. It sou...I wish I had some pithy advice to give you. It sounds like you're between a rock and a hard place. Knowing you want more and yet you sound too worn down to try to get it. I just hope that at some point, you recharge your batteries and give it another try. Good luck and don't give up. You don't want a roommate. You want a husband who wants to take you. <br /><br />FDFlorida Domhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08785387941624829985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-25567692289349407182015-04-20T18:22:45.354-04:002015-04-20T18:22:45.354-04:00Dear PK,
Do you have the will and energy to hangou...Dear PK,<br />Do you have the will and energy to hangout until the summer holidays? I hope that as the sun rises brighter and warmer each day it may recharge your batteries enough to get through this slump.<br /><br />Most mens don't like to talk as they hate facing the mirror on their lives and emotions that this type of conversation generates. But with a little energy and time to recover from a broken ego we also appreciate what that mirror shows.<br /><br />Hang in there and store up all the love and blessings everyone is sending....soon will be the time to use it to its best effectDownunder Donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07743435411018893484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-68641379605952459842015-04-20T17:18:25.436-04:002015-04-20T17:18:25.436-04:00Thanks Kathy - I know, I know. But I just don'...Thanks Kathy - I know, I know. But I just don't want to. It makes me feel like a bad wife, but it's the way I feel.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-61758749622551901662015-04-20T17:12:42.550-04:002015-04-20T17:12:42.550-04:00Nick hates to talk! I think (and I could be wrong,...Nick hates to talk! I think (and I could be wrong, because I'm guessing) that he would rather let the whole think go that have to keep talking about it. That would be bad enough but I think I'm beginning to feel the same way.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-7223313958171232802015-04-20T17:10:14.521-04:002015-04-20T17:10:14.521-04:00I think what he thinks is that he wished he'd ...I think what he thinks is that he wished he'd married someone who wasn't so damn strange.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-86223383077846460592015-04-20T17:09:31.247-04:002015-04-20T17:09:31.247-04:00It could be - I know this is a busy time for me. I...It could be - I know this is a busy time for me. I come home tired and I know he does. It just seems so much easier not to try.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-46552197052022428822015-04-20T17:08:36.084-04:002015-04-20T17:08:36.084-04:00I appreciate the thought's Meredith.I appreciate the thought's Meredith.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-91821582763688309092015-04-20T17:08:06.220-04:002015-04-20T17:08:06.220-04:00E, you're more helpful than you know. It helps...E, you're more helpful than you know. It helps so much to know that there are others like me or 'us' (me and Nick). Sometimes I read blogs and think everyone else has this all figured out. I know that's not true, but it can start to feel that way.<br /><br />I suppose we'll talk sometime, but I'm just not there yet.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-14435122741919182192015-04-20T17:02:05.115-04:002015-04-20T17:02:05.115-04:00I do realize fine isn't a word that is easily ...I do realize fine isn't a word that is easily defined. But I'm not about to go postal, I have no intentions of jumping off a bridge or shooting Nick either. I'm just fine, okay, whatever...PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-9906184710314239202015-04-20T17:00:09.463-04:002015-04-20T17:00:09.463-04:00I just can't take that plunge right now. My he...I just can't take that plunge right now. My hearts no in it. And when i comes to asking him to read, that gets my back up too. I don't post every day and most of my post are short. He knows I like him to read here and the very fact that he doesn't goes a long way to let me know he doesn't care what I'm thinking and feeling. <br /><br />Imagine if our husbands wrote their feeling down on a blog - would anything keep us from reading it. He checks his computer every day, but he doesn't have 2 or 3 minutes to read here?PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-3624308691168973132015-04-20T16:54:02.639-04:002015-04-20T16:54:02.639-04:00The sisterly empathy is much appreciated. If I wer...The sisterly empathy is much appreciated. If I were to actually 'talk' face to face with words and everything I would cry and be totally unable to articulate anything. So I don't do that, I just turn everything inward with no outward appearance of a problem.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-59973742911843202722015-04-20T16:51:30.932-04:002015-04-20T16:51:30.932-04:00I don't want to give it up - but I don't h...I don't want to give it up - but I don't have the energy to pursue it either.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-24397834910507837442015-04-20T16:50:44.724-04:002015-04-20T16:50:44.724-04:00It helps to know I'm not the only one.It helps to know I'm not the only one.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-42637618290431362802015-04-20T16:50:22.548-04:002015-04-20T16:50:22.548-04:00Are we old enough to give up?Are we old enough to give up?PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-70469166495485336382015-04-20T14:49:45.354-04:002015-04-20T14:49:45.354-04:00I do hope this is only a phase. But, you have to c...I do hope this is only a phase. But, you have to communicate or it will make things worse for you both.<br /><br />Sorry you are going through this.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />KathyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685948328948119516noreply@blogger.com