tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post3357067550557558649..comments2024-03-26T18:59:25.722-04:00Comments on New Beginnings: What are your thoughts on spanking children?PKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-47828860710872105982021-05-26T14:22:01.977-04:002021-05-26T14:22:01.977-04:00I think that's true with many of us. Once I wa...I think that's true with many of us. Once I was in my teaching partner's class when he asked how many of the children were ever spanked. All but two raised their hands - the two most obnoxious, bratty kids in the class. The teacher made no comment but the other kids looked at one another nodding and laughing. I don't believe in spanking children, but I also don't like 'studies' that would have us believe that every child that was ever spanked will grow up warped and damaged.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-53588334739514201532021-05-26T11:47:51.007-04:002021-05-26T11:47:51.007-04:00Grin, I was the trouble maker in my house. Yes I ...Grin, I was the trouble maker in my house. Yes I remember being spanked, not as often as I should have been probably but my father didn't think it was right. I did feel the strop and others, and as you said, I turned out fine(?) and generally don't resent my parents. However, never did that with my own kid. <br /><br />BooBoosghost2https://www.blogger.com/profile/17561751126690661268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-92111714315064148822021-05-26T10:10:17.297-04:002021-05-26T10:10:17.297-04:00I was the same way as a child - love to hear about...I was the same way as a child - love to hear about others getting spanked, even made up stories - but I did NOT like it for myself.<br /><br />I remember working with a dog trainer once and I quickly realized he was training me, not the dog. If everyone were trained to be a better parent, we'd never consider spanking our kids.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-71060349933794637422021-05-26T09:59:59.281-04:002021-05-26T09:59:59.281-04:00I'm going to post about my most effective disc...I'm going to post about my most effective discipline method in a few days. I think it would work with most kids if parents would just try.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-81041505544852510142021-05-26T08:14:03.495-04:002021-05-26T08:14:03.495-04:00Hi, I was spanked occasionally as a child. I think...Hi, I was spanked occasionally as a child. I think a severe telling off would have been better. I like the idea as an adult of a clean sheet after the spanking. It didn't feel like that as a child.It felt like you had to prove you were sorry.<br /> I smacked my children occasionally. I think there is a lot more information now on better ways to discipline and if I was doing it again now, I would definitely not spank them.<br />I remember watching one of these nanny reality tv programmes. The child was throwing tantrums and I thought to myself, maybe this one needs a good spanking! As the programme progressed it became clear that the mother's agitation was winding up the child. She learnt to parent better and the child calmed down. It made a deep impression on me.<br />It's funny, even as a child I remember finding reading stories about children getting spanked exciting, but getting spanked myself then was not exciting at all!<br />AliceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-72233717238208543062021-05-26T04:27:30.056-04:002021-05-26T04:27:30.056-04:00I'd just say that whether the child turns out ...I'd just say that whether the child turns out okay isn't one of my criteria. I think it's seldom appropriate, and I think we set a better example by using other kinds of discipline.<br /><br />What did your daughter find was the most effective?Rich Personhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01029518662880068066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-50929453611030683832021-05-25T15:46:45.010-04:002021-05-25T15:46:45.010-04:00I can see where she would see that as acceptable, ...I can see where she would see that as acceptable, if mommy does it why can't I? I do think those in our generation who felt they were treated harshly or unfairly chose not to do the same to their kids. So maybe we are evolving. PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-45874190438311683602021-05-25T15:44:15.330-04:002021-05-25T15:44:15.330-04:00I feel your frustration and trying to talk to a pe...I feel your frustration and trying to talk to a person like this. But at the same time we probable both know adults who were spanked as children that DID turn out okay and never spank their children. <br /><br />But truly I think spanking should be an adult/adult endeavor. PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-69571140019919053902021-05-25T15:41:35.992-04:002021-05-25T15:41:35.992-04:00I would never recommend it. Although I know many p...I would never recommend it. Although I know many people who were spanked and what I'd call harshly, yet they did grow up to be lovely people who don't hit others. <br /><br />I gave my children reasons for rules and for discipline - but I did occasionally fall back on the 'because I said so' and I explain why in my next post.<br /><br />I enjoy talking to my daughter these days, she reminds me of things I'd say or punishments I used that she hated, but admits she will probably use them herself - definitely alternates to spanking.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-27961235412359307692021-05-25T15:36:22.768-04:002021-05-25T15:36:22.768-04:00It is a minefield for sure. I tend to agree with y...It is a minefield for sure. I tend to agree with your second paragraph, but I'd only admit that among sane friends.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-16774636996961911472021-05-25T15:05:49.403-04:002021-05-25T15:05:49.403-04:00That would be a no from me. I tried it once when ...That would be a no from me. I tried it once when my kid was little ...and she smacked me back. lmao I realized that it was confusing and offensive to her ...... I never tried that again. We went the time out and grounding route instead. (I was physically disciplined harshly growing up and I would never do that to a child.) WindyWindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06867828862057296642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-86270934411122879322021-05-25T08:36:12.029-04:002021-05-25T08:36:12.029-04:00I remember investigating abuse of a lil guy I was ...I remember investigating abuse of a lil guy I was teaching.. called his father in.. who admitted he had been beaten as a child... his attitude was I turned out ok (my brain exploded) <br />I asked him if as a child he had felt good about being beaten?? felt safe?? and he honestly said No... but he kept repeating he turned out ok... <br /><br />some parents - le sigh. morningstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01500052225655763353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-55191871726816494452021-05-25T04:05:14.727-04:002021-05-25T04:05:14.727-04:00I think you're right not to recommend spanking...I think you're right not to recommend spanking children. Hitting them teaches them that it's okay to use hitting others to get your way. I also agree that many parents are crazy.<br /><br />There are a lot better ways to get children to learn to do the right things. One is consistency and proportionality. It's important to have a plan for what kind of penalties to impose for what level of misbehavior. For small children, you can usually pick them up and put them where you want them or physically restrain them.<br /><br />I think it's important to give good reasoning for what you tell them to do. That might only be that you need it for now, so that you can handle what you need to do. This teaches them they can work with other people to reach reasonable goals.<br /><br />Generally, corporal punishment is appropriate for consenting adults. I say, help children to learn appropriate behavior and tap into their own self-discipline. If necessary, take away a cherished item or give them a time-out. I think that helps build respect for their parent in the child, and that's going to be really handy later on, when the child is fully grown.Rich Personhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01029518662880068066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-15466292449666036532021-05-25T03:22:15.453-04:002021-05-25T03:22:15.453-04:00Hi PK, this is such a minefield of a topic nowdays...Hi PK, this is such a minefield of a topic nowdays. I can only remember being spanked once as a child. My mother would on occasion deliver one slap on the thigh on occasion as a short sharp jolt.<br /><br />I don't see any issue with a mild swat or two, particularly to stop a child about to do something dangerous, such as sticking something into a power socket, but nothing more.<br /><br />Hugs <br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.com