tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post6757441559632430042..comments2024-03-26T18:59:25.722-04:00Comments on New Beginnings: What I want, what I needPKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-66626941047345162692012-07-21T16:28:54.715-04:002012-07-21T16:28:54.715-04:00yes, yes, and yes... I could ask my mother about a...yes, yes, and yes... I could ask my mother about any question I had regarding sex - problem is that she knew little more than me...and even though what she really instilled with me was that she wanted to find a man I truly love and who loves me back and that is very true in my life...the image of being a "good girl" was still plastered in my brain...Terpsichorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704408254742966076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-51325099092512179182012-07-16T04:59:52.253-04:002012-07-16T04:59:52.253-04:00Well written post PK.
Wait until the re-vamp is ...Well written post PK. <br /><br />Wait until the re-vamp is done and then consider sending it to him.<br /><br />Love,<br />Ronnie<br />xxronniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16402712634206383021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-567360549097326282012-07-15T21:51:53.500-04:002012-07-15T21:51:53.500-04:00Paul,
I need you to keep them crossed for me all w...Paul,<br />I need you to keep them crossed for me all week, there are several things going on.<br /><br />Bas,<br />I know our mothers had no intention to mess us up – they told us what they believed. I sometimes wonder what my daughter is picking up from me. If she has paid attention in the past 6 years (and she has) hopefully she is seeing that couples can be close and enjoy one another.<br /><br />FD,<br />I feel great comfort in knowing others have struggled with the same hang-ups that I have. And I see them in all different stages. So I know we’ve made some progress and I see that we have a ways to go. <br /><br />Abby,<br />My husband is the best. Whether I become a sex kitten or not, thinks are way better than they used to be and I will be forever grateful for everything Nick has been willing to do for me.<br /><br />Minelle,<br />I like your stair analogy. It seems very accurate. I hope we are about to take off from this landing soon. We don’t have to race up the stairs, but I want to keep moving.<br /><br />Are you still working on that project????<br /><br />Lil,<br />I appreciated your post too. I don’t know why we are wired this way, and I don’t even care any more, I just need Nick to realize that that’s how the wiring is. Like you I know progress is progress, but I can’t help wishing it were faster and steadier!<br /><br />Sunnygirl,<br />I do know and I really like the feeling that my friends do understand. And I love having real friends out here that I can discuss this with.<br /><br />SNP,<br />Those little notes and communications really mean so much, they really don’t know how important that tiny effort can be. It’s not that it takes much time, it’s that they thought of us. Doesn’t have to be every day, but some time.<br /><br />BB,<br />I really appreciate you commenting. Whether or not we all know each other well it help so much to feel that others understand. I hope you will come by often.<br /><br />Faerie,<br />I want to do that, but it’s hard to initiate when you just don’t feel sexy – you’re just not in the mood, it’s hard. But it’s still something I’m going to work on.<br /><br />ReneeRose,<br />Interesting idea. I’ll take any bossy text I can get. I am passive in the bedroom with certain things that that passivity can turn to passion.<br /><br />Thanks Brat,<br />I forgot he doesn’t have a computer at the moment. Maybe I’ll leave mine on his chair.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-28540820148312773692012-07-15T20:51:26.445-04:002012-07-15T20:51:26.445-04:00This is a great post and I think having him read i...This is a great post and I think having him read it is a good idea. Here's to hoping you both get what you want. :)Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03910489208431359436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-75686724504736520032012-07-15T16:51:42.300-04:002012-07-15T16:51:42.300-04:00I relate to this all over the place. As a natural...I relate to this all over the place. As a natural submissive, it makes sense that you'd be passive in the bedroom right? I sure am. I posted about that problem for me in my Milkshake post. Seems like now that you've written about it, the communication will open up. Maybe you need a bossy text telling you you MUST initiate twice/week or you'll be punished. :) I'm sure there are many solutions. Just processing your thoughts the way you have here will get things rolling. hugs!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04842027321593278610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-14143072160764444322012-07-15T14:19:31.764-04:002012-07-15T14:19:31.764-04:00Maybe you could make a goal for yourself to initia...Maybe you could make a goal for yourself to initiate more, say once a week? Focusing on him and what he wants/needs might actually help you get more of what you need. <br /><br />Or, I could be totally off base, in which case, sorry about that.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-63913277600559023492012-07-15T13:07:10.204-04:002012-07-15T13:07:10.204-04:00I often read and enjoy your blog but have never co...I often read and enjoy your blog but have never commented. This latest post is so true, so honest and so appreciated. Thank you. <br />BBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-90849748180946108602012-07-15T11:38:11.126-04:002012-07-15T11:38:11.126-04:00Glad you got this all out on a post, PK. I especi...Glad you got this all out on a post, PK. I especially liked the paragraph that talked about the text and other things that you found hot. Those same things are turn on for me as well. Meeting each other's needs is so important. And, if you meet the other person's need then usually your needs get met, too. All the best.SNPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06002781182375655139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-16058656953776011702012-07-15T11:04:21.244-04:002012-07-15T11:04:21.244-04:00Such great comments PK. I don't think there i...Such great comments PK. I don't think there is anything I can add. <br />Great post. You know how I feel.Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-60766837871147784962012-07-15T10:01:01.785-04:002012-07-15T10:01:01.785-04:00Asking for what one needs/wants...The subject of m...Asking for what one needs/wants...The subject of my mental spewing yesterday lol.<br /><br />And as someone who just doesn't enjoy sex if there isn't a D/s aspect to it, I can understand the repressed bit because I did it to myself for ages. And ttwd changed how I relate to sex. Still a work in progress lol. But progress is progress.<br /><br />I really enjoyed this post.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-85020781072019955662012-07-15T09:26:57.297-04:002012-07-15T09:26:57.297-04:00Well, I totally hear you. As you know I grew up in...Well, I totally hear you. As you know I grew up in a similar family. You absolutely, positively did not have sex outside of marriage!! My mother did a much better job explaining the whole thing to me than her mother but still.... children were the reason,but you could enjoy it. It is all so complicated,but striving to have the kind of intimacy we need in our relationships is a liberating process.Not that it is always a bed of roses!It seems kind of like a stairway with multiple landings. We begin walking up the staircase but hit a landing and stay there for a while before catching our breath and starting up again!<br />I bet once you guys catch your breath after all the home improvements you will keep on keeping on....<br />MinelleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-5249027551815649072012-07-15T09:02:58.768-04:002012-07-15T09:02:58.768-04:00PK..great post....your thoughts came through very ...PK..great post....your thoughts came through very clearly. I grew up as you did, finally believeing I was just not a sexual creature. Meeting Master changed that for me, for the reasons you noted.<br />Good Luck, hubby loves you, I hope you both get what you want. hugs abbyabbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17208861579579989418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-88807197693920082202012-07-15T08:30:27.976-04:002012-07-15T08:30:27.976-04:00PK: I'm glad you wrote this post so other wome...PK: I'm glad you wrote this post so other women in similar situations can realize they are not alone. I am sure other women got similar messages from their mothers about what nice girls do. And they also may not be getting the dominance they want. <br /><br />And let's hope Nick reads it and get the message that his wife needs his dominance in the bedroom. Good luck.<br /><br />FDFlorida Domhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08785387941624829985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-25763945924638717632012-07-15T07:50:01.857-04:002012-07-15T07:50:01.857-04:00I hardly dare to comment. This is all so true.
Thi...I hardly dare to comment. This is all so true.<br />This post of you is clearly not the result of just one week of rolling around in your head.<br /><br />In a comment to my post Faerie wrote: “Maybe Lisa finds the fact that she can no longer refuse freeing?”<br />And I answered: “Yes, you've hit the nail right on its head. Not being free to refuse is the most freeing feeling that Lisa has ever had. It is not her decision to do that thing that is so evil that it might kill her own mother.”<br /><br />We are all the sum of not only our own experiences, but also of those who were before us.<br />It is not easy to become free of ideas that accumulated over centuries. But with the help of our Special Other we can break out of our thorny inner shell and do as we intellectually always wanted to do. It’s not easy to always keep going on but If we allow this thorny shell to close again, we are sure to damage the one standing next to it.<br /><br />Your great Standard Work is well under way!Bashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244518003342672738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-45819342228544358062012-07-15T07:00:08.109-04:002012-07-15T07:00:08.109-04:00PK,
keeping all my fingers crossed for you. I'...PK,<br />keeping all my fingers crossed for you. I'm typing with my toes. LOL!<br />Love and warm hugs,<br />Paul.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03790580459962602757noreply@blogger.com