tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post1804286538800146256..comments2024-03-26T18:59:25.722-04:00Comments on New Beginnings: Do you want to be punished?PKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-51490130554891944022018-01-22T23:00:30.292-05:002018-01-22T23:00:30.292-05:00Ninety nine percent of our spankings are pseudo pu...Ninety nine percent of our spankings are pseudo punishment and end with sex. I really need the pretext of discipline to really enjoy it. A real punishment--not super severe like some describe--usually ends up there too. BDSM is too heavy for me, even in fantasy. But, like you describe, punishment is the fantasy that really does it for me. Tom is a wonderful fantasy but probably too much in rel life. I liked this post.<br />Rosie DeeRosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12851198467161002487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-9211542000996197462013-09-23T19:41:41.744-04:002013-09-23T19:41:41.744-04:00Jason Girl,
I'm with you - as much fun as erot...Jason Girl,<br />I'm with you - as much fun as erotic spanking can be, I think of it as spanking-lite. Somehow I can't get the satisfaction from it, the realism I crave. Thanks for stopping by.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-68989746176921027202013-09-23T19:32:15.433-04:002013-09-23T19:32:15.433-04:00Minelle,
I think that's what we've all loo...Minelle,<br />I think that's what we've all looked for all our life, a place to say what what we want.PKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02050453501744475319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-15312099035363435782013-09-23T04:28:02.616-04:002013-09-23T04:28:02.616-04:00Although I love erotic spanking, domestic discipli...Although I love erotic spanking, domestic discipline spanking satisfies an emotional and psychological need of mine that erotic spanking just doesn't satisfy. That serious need to be punished, to have the definitive consequence for having done something wrong, and then to be forgiven at the hands of the man I love more than anyone...it is deeply, deeply satisfying to me. However, I dislike being punished. It hurts deeply. I strongly dislike knowing I've disappointed my husband, and even a reprimand for him hurts. I recently told my husband, "I dislike being punished but I love that you will do it if you need to." <br /><br />So most of our spankings are not punishment, or erotic, but something in between...a maintenance-style spanking that reminds me who is in charge and/or helps me let go of my stress. This is what we both prefer by far.JGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15399815123836143722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-83689031843725360242013-09-22T23:37:55.622-04:002013-09-22T23:37:55.622-04:00Gosh I completely understand. I have never felt as...Gosh I completely understand. I have never felt as accepted for my feelings regarding spanking as I do here. I have shared that I have always felt that desire for spanking...discipline etc. I have books earmarked from being read over and over regarding a scene of- or a word regarding spanking. For me I even separated the two. Spanking was discipline and erotica was separate. Only after finding this place did I understand a connection.<br />You always get it. I love that you are not afraid to say what you want. Hurrah!Minielle Labraunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16206283897752166320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-45902032769079040832013-09-22T23:17:51.533-04:002013-09-22T23:17:51.533-04:00Katie,
You said it! I bet there aren't two cou...Katie,<br />You said it! I bet there aren't two couples out her that does TTWD exactly the same, yet we all hold it as a common bond. And I love that we all share what works for us.PK Coreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709050887630815873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-65555886667877423902013-09-22T22:25:04.357-04:002013-09-22T22:25:04.357-04:00I loved this post PK! :). The neatest thing about...I loved this post PK! :). The neatest thing about Blogland is that we come to it with a common interest - spanking of one kind or another, as well as a mission to grow in love with our spouse or partner. Here we are free to say what we think and feel, and find acceptance, people who care and will listen without judgement. We share our experiences and learn from eachother. We listen as well as support. We share our thoughts honestly and kindly. It's a treasure of a place, as well as a lucky find!<br /><br />Thanks for writing this, PK! :). I think many of us share a lot of these feelings. The neat thing is that we can all tailor ttwd to work for us in our own special way. Many hugs,<br /><br /><3 KatieKatiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09502903951761571578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-79595668441164727532013-09-22T18:08:17.216-04:002013-09-22T18:08:17.216-04:00Mona,
I miss Bas terribly and I know he would weig...Mona,<br />I miss Bas terribly and I know he would weigh in here. He understood that I wanted to be punished at times and also helped me understand why Nick just couldn't really indulge me. He helped me understand my husband much better.<br /><br />I think we are all part of one minority or another out here, when I talk with those heavy into BDSM, I'm the minority in the conversation. I talk to them to understand what they get from it, not to tell them they shouldn't be into it.<br /><br />When I talk with my friends who only like fun or erotic spankings I'm a minority again. The fact that all of us out here enjoy some form of spanking may put us in a minority in the world (but maybe not, I do wonder).<br /><br />Your last sentence is so very true, "There's room for all of us here."PK Coreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709050887630815873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-16549450061909275762013-09-22T18:00:32.398-04:002013-09-22T18:00:32.398-04:00Ronnie,
You are lucky, but then we all are to have...Ronnie,<br />You are lucky, but then we all are to have men willing to dabble in it to some extent and to have one another to confide in.PK Coreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709050887630815873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-91788332453383232412013-09-22T17:59:25.797-04:002013-09-22T17:59:25.797-04:00DF,
I'm glad for you. Both that you enjoy puni...DF,<br />I'm glad for you. Both that you enjoy punishment fantasies (makes me feel less strange when I know that other understand these feelings) and that you are perfectly content to leave them in fantasy land and completely enjoy your version of TTWD. You're very lucky.PK Coreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709050887630815873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-86007786748998641782013-09-22T17:57:24.863-04:002013-09-22T17:57:24.863-04:00Jan,
I do understand - with all the acceptance I ...Jan, <br />I do understand - with all the acceptance I feel here there are still thing in my head I wouldn't share (though if I did, I suspect others would tell me they thought of the same things). Now you know I have to ask - why don't you find one story you're willing to share on Fantasy Friday. With your name or totally anonymous. Think about it.PK Coreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709050887630815873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-55593092043168561032013-09-22T17:55:01.811-04:002013-09-22T17:55:01.811-04:00Terps,
We have so very much in common. Funny you s...Terps,<br />We have so very much in common. Funny you should mention older sibling doling out discipline. In my made up family I took the parents out of the story immediately, somehow even as a child I felt my fantasies were 'wrong' and I didn't want parents mixed up with my 'weird' thoughts. It's nice to be understood.PK Coreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709050887630815873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-33856407286319961392013-09-22T17:51:49.705-04:002013-09-22T17:51:49.705-04:00FD,
This community means the world to me. I someti...FD,<br />This community means the world to me. I sometimes wonder where I'd be if I hadn't found it.PK Coreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709050887630815873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-20293929471864898862013-09-22T17:48:09.692-04:002013-09-22T17:48:09.692-04:00Paul,
I'm there now - not going to deny it any...Paul,<br />I'm there now - not going to deny it anymore. It's a part of me and if I love myself I have to love that part too.PK Coreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709050887630815873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-74238339452760541002013-09-22T17:47:27.788-04:002013-09-22T17:47:27.788-04:00Angel,
I know you understand. I know what I want a...Angel,<br />I know you understand. I know what I want and what I desire. I don't know if I'd like it in real life. But I honestly think I might.PK Coreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709050887630815873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-83148679690829552302013-09-22T17:46:19.268-04:002013-09-22T17:46:19.268-04:00Daisy,
Isn't it nice to have a place to exchan...Daisy,<br />Isn't it nice to have a place to exchange and explore what we want without feeling put down for our desires. PK Coreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709050887630815873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-41353443959097694552013-09-22T15:50:18.745-04:002013-09-22T15:50:18.745-04:00A year ago I did not even know that spanking exist...A year ago I did not even know that spanking existed.<br />What a paddle, is I got to see the picture.<br /><br />If I had not met a kind and stubborn and wise Dutch man who claimed that spanking can be erotic .. and dared to stand against my disagreements ... I would never discover how spanking a la Bas can get me and Leo together.<br />Spanking a la Bas, pinkish, not reddish. Gentle, with lots of caresses and kisses. His Lisa has never even heard the word punishment either.<br />After Bass has died, it felt very lonely to be dating fairly in this communitet where almost all love to be spankad until pain and tears.<br />Thank God for Bobbie, Df, SG, Irishey I know that there are some like me. It's not easy to be a minority.<br />As I wrote earlier, there are certain things I will not understand, and that's OK. And vice versa, you will not understand, and that's ok.<br />But there's room for all of us here, I hope.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-87855416793236198822013-09-22T15:23:36.156-04:002013-09-22T15:23:36.156-04:00I forget how lucky I am sometimes. We've been ...I forget how lucky I am sometimes. We've been together a long time and fit well together and I wouldn't change a thing we do. Thought a few more of those punishment spanking wouldn't go amiss:)<br /><br />We all different, we share our spanking, loves, hates, fantasies,and that's what I love about this community.<br /><br />Love,<br />Ronnie<br />xxronniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16402712634206383021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-48441316732549964742013-09-22T15:19:27.865-04:002013-09-22T15:19:27.865-04:00I do have fantasies about punishment or disciplina...I do have fantasies about punishment or disciplinary spankings. They are there in my head, I write them down too. However, they are not what I seek in real-life. I'm happy with our TTWD, how it brings us together. Sometimes the desire only goes as far as our imagination. I'm lucky to be able to appreciate both my fantasies and real-life spankings. This community is a testimony to that.<br />DelFontehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02877826634987802545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-3818378219601392792013-09-22T13:45:24.033-04:002013-09-22T13:45:24.033-04:00Hi PK. I too feel exactly like you. My hubby dabbl...Hi PK. I too feel exactly like you. My hubby dabbles in punishment spankings but he is really not that way inclined. I feel like you do.. I too am envious of Ronnie. P does seem to "get it". I read lots of stories and have started to write a few just for fun not for anyone to read, and in my mind I dabble in lots of things I wouldn't tell. ;) I think we are lucky to have all our blogland friends to talk to and not be judged by<br />love Jan.xxan English Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00696976759167193635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-35645726272893488602013-09-22T10:50:55.709-04:002013-09-22T10:50:55.709-04:00As you know I spent many years as a child creating...As you know I spent many years as a child creating stories in my head all evolving around the idea of discipline. At the time it was stories of parents or older siblings disciplining children as it was all I knew at the time. I was never spanked as a child, nor have I ever spanked my own children. But as a child I thought about it a lot. Those characters still are a part of me. As I became an adult my stories turned to fantasies of an adult nature and many of those still involve punishment at the core - the caring, loving, and strong man who protects and disciplines his love with gentle strength and dominance. It may not be right for me in real life, but the fantasy will always be true. So I understand what you speak of. :-) HugsTerpsichorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704408254742966076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-30653677815980817542013-09-22T08:23:00.255-04:002013-09-22T08:23:00.255-04:00As usual, you made so many good points. It is wond...As usual, you made so many good points. It is wonderful that those of us in TTWD have found an online community where we can share our feelings.<br /><br />FDFlorida Domhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08785387941624829985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-42764290291711803252013-09-22T06:30:01.101-04:002013-09-22T06:30:01.101-04:00PK,
I believe this desire is much more common then...PK,<br />I believe this desire is much more common then many would think.<br />This desire has been part of me all my life, as I grow older I can't be bothered to deny it.<br />Love and warm hugs,<br />Paul.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03790580459962602757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-22229630627332945702013-09-22T03:02:03.819-04:002013-09-22T03:02:03.819-04:00This is me, exactly. I'm very fortunate that N...This is me, exactly. I'm very fortunate that Nick has come to the point where he feels comfortable disciplining me, although it took a lot of years to get here. It's still an inner conflict for me to genuinely not want to do anything to upset him and yet still crave real (not pretend or role-play) punishment. What a paradox we are sometimes!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />TracyAngelBrathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09667535664802968700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31522777.post-89074789027802545432013-09-22T01:43:04.720-04:002013-09-22T01:43:04.720-04:00As a teen I fantasized about spankings more so I h...As a teen I fantasized about spankings more so I had a strict dad with lots of siblings...I put that past me for a while..<br /><br />then when I felt I needed spanked a few years ago my fantasies get deeper and deeper. my needs grow more...<br /><br /><br />writing helps me along too even though I think Tyler and I are goin in a good directionDaisy Christianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02068847822523639638noreply@blogger.com